Real men don’t do yoga

MAF and Yoga

In a society that places people in neat little convenient ticky-tacky boxes, it seems today’s yoga is clearly for women.

There I was, bare feet firmly on the ground, in nature, a near perfect sun-pose, my salutations, the first of many that brings relaxation and comfort accompanied by deep breathing, and giant alpha waves generating multiple layers of mindfulness. All while drinking my morning fat-burning coffee.

I wouldn’t exactly call this yoga, though it might be closer to the true intention, which developed out of the Hindu religion. In fact much of the original terminology is still used.

Consider that various asanas, positions, are designed to greet Surya, the Hindu Sun God. I do love a good cup of coffee.

Today in the U.S. yoga enthusiasts are more than 80 percent women.

In the early 1980s, the book “Real Men Don’t Eat Quiche” along with the various sequels satirized how men should behave in modern society. While the names have changed, the social stigmas have not, remaining more entrenched than ever to significantly influence all aspects of our health and fitness.

Do real men do yoga?

There is an aura surrounding yoga. The mystical, mysteriousness, magical supernatural, of sorts. Perhaps our society views men as more pragmatic than women? Well, some are and some aren’t.

Health and fitness trends are always changing, and, unfortunately, come with large doses of hype. This makes it difficult to know the real benefits from the junk. But even the good things can come with unnecessary hype.

Knowing its potential value in health and fitness, various forms of yoga are something I have recommended over my career, to both men and women. But for those who came close to chastising themselves into discipline of almost daily yoga, but really hated it, I suggested they please stop; instead, choose another way to obtain the same benefits. 

I don’t do yoga. Having tried various styles (there are more than 100 different types of yoga), I never enjoyed any of them.

Instead, I use other various physical and mental activities over my day, week, month and year to maintain very good flexibility, breathing, strength and endurance, including that meditative mood easily entered when the day gets hectic and a power break is important. In other words, I get the same important benefits of yoga, its scientific and perceived values, from other approaches, without the formality, the environment, the special clothes, or going anywhere.

Society is so stigma-based. Men are from . . . what planet was that? Women are from the other one. Of course, we all live as individuals here on earth, but there are neurological and physical, as well as social/cultural, reasons that men and women prefer and often perform better at different activities, academic subjects and careers. While yogis don’t usually outwardly shun other disciplines it would still seem society does just that.

Yoga is big business. In the U.S. alone, yogis spent $16 billion on yoga gear in 2016, with over 50,000 teachers registered with Yoga Alliance. But of the 20 million or so people who practice yoga in the U.S., only about 18 percent are men.

Ironically, yoga was developed centuries ago by men in India. It historically has been practiced primarily by men. In the last century, with the big jolt coming in the 1960s, a modern form of yoga became feminized.

Should we call this sexist, just chalk one up for women, or what? Are those men among the many women attracted to yoga looking for dates? There is certainly a social purpose in the minds of most people who exercise. Those joining a gym, for example, often list social reasons for doing so over health and fitness. Runners too, are a potent subconscious collective. Weight lifters? Yes, a powerful culture. Whose side are you on?

Sexism is alive and well in health and fitness. Consider the gender paradox, where, despite living longer women’s health lags behind men’s. In sports, where most activities were originally developed by men for their fitness abilities, sexism remains; even the media coverage is sexist by continuing the double standard between male and female athletes.

Scientific studies of yoga have linked it to various unisex benefits, from a reduction in back pain, lower heart rate and blood pressure; helping to relieve anxiety, depression and insomnia; and improved strength and flexibility. And while there is science behind the notion that we all have about the same number of heart beats before we die, the ancient yogis claimed we all have a certain number of breaths.

But many other healthy routines help us conserve our heart beats and breath too; from aerobic exercise and strength training, to physically moving throughout the day, breathing properly, and having the ability to produce alpha brain waves. But none of these benefits from any of the many healthy routines, yoga included, will be realized if we think bad thoughts, eat junk food, and sit on our butts too much between workouts.

I also wonder if maybe more men are turned off to things like chanting, Sanskrit terms for poses, cliché yoga music, and pretzel poses. Or, maybe men are too aggressive in their workout ethics to even try yoga, perhaps the reason male yogi’s are more injured than women. (Male runners are also more injured than females.)

While contemporary yoga has roots as a 60s thing, of hippies, flower power and cosmic teas, that image has been polished for social exploitation. Likewise, the connection between yoga and religion — some religious leaders still recommend against it (some may be surprised that running is not a religion either).

Social slang says we should follow our hearts. Of course, that’s just silly; we should follow our brains. So guys, and gals, if you want to do yoga, go right ahead, as long as you enjoy it. But there’s no cosmic magic in it you won’t get from other enjoyable activities.


  • Michael says:

    There doesn’t seem to be any real good reasons for men not to do yoga. I do it occasionally but struggle with the stamina and endurance to keep at it for very long. My opinion would be that most men just don’t see it as manly and as such would view practicing it as some kind of threat to their masculinity. I think a man who’s truly secure with who he is would have no problems doing yoga. There are probably things women don’t do much because they are seen as too masculine(such as fix cars or work with tools) so this is just at the other end of the spectrum but for men.

  • Gary says:

    I’m a real man. I don’t “do” Yoga – I “practice” Yoga.

    If you find the right teacher and practice regularly, Yoga is a wonderful
    balance for the body from the effects of weight lifting and mountain biking
    which I also enjoy.

    You MUST find the right teacher……email me and I’ll send you her name.
    I’ll pay for your first class : )

  • Laurie says:

    Great article Phil. I know you are highlighting men’s involvement in yoga verses women’s, and your points are good ones — but you also touch on the fact that the same benefits can be achieved through other activities, and there is no magic in doing yoga. I had a dedicated yoga practice for 14 years until I discovered Foundation Training by Dr Eric Goodman. Now this is a practice that has changed my life. One look at what this is all about caused me to quit yoga in that second, and never look back. I realized everything thing that is wrong with yoga, in my opinion — that extension and twisting of the spine are not healthy movements. Foundation Training is just the opposite. It offers a series of exercises that are based on the principles of utilizing the hip hinge while incorporating a decompression breathing technique. All movements are done with a braced spine, placing the emphasis on the posterior chain. These patterns are transferred into proper movements throughout the day, the way we were designed to move. Instead of rounding our backs to pick things up, a deadlift type movement is used. You may be aware of this practice, but if not, I think you would love it. And the benefits can be felt in 10 or 15 minute sessions. Very different from the 11/2 classes I was wasting time in, doing yoga in a hot room. I do about 30 minutes a day though, because I love FT so much. i also love that you say to follow our brains, not our heart! I follow your heart rate formula as well. Thanks!

  • Amiya das says:

    Yoga and pranayam are real discoveries by yogis rishis in ancient time. Just wondering how they would know all these things without any scientific device at that time. Its not patented or restricted to certain people its open for the entire human being.

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